The simple solution is giving them a prepaid debit gift card.
When each of your birthday's been released you usually have your gift ready. They will put in a valid , and claim either to never have received the card or which is had been used up already. eBay will typically refund customer. https://groups.google.com/g/giftcard-mall-my-gift-info/c/lJb4jNQqwjY